WE DON'T SEE THIS THE SAME WAY
I am realizing that I do not view this stimulating work and thinking about my death the same way my husband does. I am willing to get into the deep recesses of my mind and really figure out how I feel about dying, being remembered by my nearest and dearest, where I want to be laid out, who is to speak at my memorial. On and On, I go. I am into feeling, reality, planning. My dearest husband, a compassionate man with a wide range of experience, is the protector. He is a pro
How Much is Too Much?
“When I die that ain’t the time I’m going to start getting choosey. They can lay me in the nearest spot. When I pass from this world I’ll be considerate of them that stay in it.” Flannery O’Connor, Judgement Day I have been trying to be comfortable with my decisions made for my cemetery care and burial. What a money making decision this has become! I always say “Don’t be poor and die.” That sounds callous but it is reality. You pay thousands for the “simple” cremation plan in
Growing Old is the Adventure - How's Your Travel?
"Life's a ride You've gotta buy a ticket, hang on tight and keep going around 'til they kick ya off." Marci I'd like to inform all the younger folks I run into that I have my ticket, I am hanging on tight and I am not getting off - Yet! There are moments when this getting older adventure gets a bit frustrating. A few examples: I can not climb up on the ladder and balance a large platter and climb down I can't open a jar without help My back gets inflamed when I dig in the dir
I am about to go to the cemetery where my husband's parents are buried. Since there are two plots and in this current century more than one casket or cremated remains can be accommodated in each plot I am about to sign myself into one of the plots, accompanying my in-laws. Never thought this is what I - we - would do but since the plots are there, paid for and room is there, the decision became easy. And it certainly helps our children when they have to decide what to do wi
be the Flowers
“Your Mind is a Garden, Your Thoughts are the Seeds. You can grow Flowers or weeds...” ~ Ritu Ghatourey
Dancing on to the dark Laughter is so good. Laughter after you're dead is hard. Carl Reiner I like thinking about this. Laughter is SO, SO, SO good! Even in death there is humor. Just ask someone or reflect on your own experiences of death. There is a story in there that will bring a smile. My dad's death would make a great comedy movie with all his children as stars. ( When you meet me, you may ask for the full story!) And Carl Reiner is right - though we don't know for